Fearful avoidants can be head strong, all or nothing thinkers.  They often believe that they will be they trapped in a relationship, which makes them hypervigilant. This causes them to struggle to settle into relationships. They are often worst-case scenario thinkers.

Anxious Preoccupied people are commonly known for being warm and likable, but deep down they feel they will be abandoned or excluded. In times of unhealth, the anxious preoccupied person can over communicate their point of view & over explain who they are. They sometimes spend money they don't have in an attempt to please others & fit in. They can be insecure & seek validation in relationships. They will bend over backwards to give their partner everything they want in order to avoid conflict & being disliked. They also forgo their own needs & feelings to keep the peace.

The Dismissive Avoidant person is intellectual. They like to think through everything, enjoy endless learning, & value their security. They work well under pressure and are resilient in work. In times of unhealth, they believe they are unsafe, helpless, incapable, and not worthy. They feel shame and constant low level anxiety.  They don't always know how to communicate, negotiate, or set boundaries in romantic relationships. They may also set boundaries versus using words to communicate to people in their lives. When in conflict, they are rational & will stop talking in order to avoid conflict with the other person. In times of feeling stressed or pushed to communicate, they are known to shut down.

Securely Attached people are able to calmly communicate their needs, wants, as well as their boundaries. When these individuals have disagreements, they are able to listen without fear of being taken advantage of by others or their partner. They are also able to be alone & soothe themselves at any time.